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The State as Parent
State Intrusion into the Sanctity and Privacy of the Family

"We must remove the children from the crude influence of their families.
We must take them over and, to speak frankly, nationalize them

"[T]he most vulnerable children in our society ... are in our care; we, the state, are their parents"

"The first thing that a totalitarian regime tries to do is to get at the children,
to distance them from the subversive, varied influences of their families,
and indoctrinate them in their rulers' view of the world"

"Above all things, the child needs protecting from the state"

Jephthah's Children
the innocent casualties of same-sex parenting

The Book:
Jephthah's Children: The Innocent Casualties of Same-Sex Parenting
Wilberforce Publications, London, (2016)

Quotations and Comments

Homosexual and Gender Ideology   |   Jephthah's Children   |   Cardiff (2017)

Jephthah's Children: Preface   |   Jephthah's Children: A Review   |   Social Care: A Poem   |   Withdraw Thy Foot...

Jephthah's Children: Articles   |   The State as Parent: Quotations Index

Jepheth's Children is a chronicle of everything that has gone wrong because of the movement to normalise same-sex parenting.
The personal stories of children raised by same-sex parents are heartfelt and painful, and they speak for themselves.
The authors also examine the cultural, philosophical and political context of this momentous change
and reflect upon the resulting increased power of the state once the organic bonds of society are dissolved"

"Gay [sic] parenting has been a huge and risky social experiment: only a generation later can the outcomes be fully visible.
But now that time has passed and we need to listen to the voices of those who have grown up in families headed by same-sex parents.
The voice of ex-gays
[sic] has been all but silenced in the UK;
we cannot allow the same to happen to the voices of those who have been launched into life by gay [sic] parenting"

"It is impossible but that offences will come: but woe unto him, through whom they come!
It were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he cast into the sea,
than that he should offend one of these little ones"
(Luke 17:1-2)



Homosexual and Gender Ideology

"Same-sex couples now make up a record one in seven of the total approved to adopt children"

"These couples are VERY far from being one couple in seven. This particularly eye-opening statistic demonstrates unequivocally that social workers are deliberately putting children into homosexual households beyond any reasonable proportions"
[comment at source].

"Heterosexual couples are being put off by PC social workers ... This is all a pretext for the destruction of the natural family"  /  "There are tens of thousands of kind and loving couples who want to both foster and adopt in this country who are put off by onerous and intrusive demands and timescales put forward by the Government and Councils ... there seems to be lower and higher thresholds dependent on your views, your colour, your sexuality, background, and your political correctness score"  /  "and the greatest of these is political correctness"
[comments at source].

"In the olden days we used to have orphanages... no matter how bad they were, they were at least not creating human beings with a completely imbalanced view of human society, family and human identity. This whole issue of gay [sic] and lesbian identity sliding down to transgender stuff is designed to destroy our identity as human beings created in the image and likeness of God... and recognising that alone can bring out the best in us... denying that is more likely to bring out the worst in us"
[comment at source].

"Can you imagine how imbalanced life is when one is taught to hate the other sex because he or she has been brought up by men or women who hate the other sex? And what about the predators entering 'two dad' houses in the guise of friends and abusing boys that are adopted by the two dads... or imagine the hatred and awkwardness with which girls grow up in a 'two dad' house... just put yourself in situations like this and see how you feel"
[comment at source].

"[W]e are allowing children to be motherless/fatherless and lose their heritage and identity. These children will grow up and have their say and the shame we will feel is utterly deserved"
[comment at source].

"'[P]arenting' by homosexual couples necessarily corrupts the nature of parenthood and is ipso facto bad"
[comment at source].

"There are in fact very many stories of children exactly being kidnapped by social workers on the basis that their parents refuse to teach homosexual and/or gender ideology"
[comment at source].

"I wonder to what extent the tendency to advertise many public service jobs in the Guardian and other left of centre publications is responsible for the high proportion of PC-blinkered idiots in such jobs? Perhaps jobs in the public sector should be advertised on a national website, even if the jobs themselves are categorised by region. That way a wider section of applicants might be attracted and we might end up with more social workers with common-sense"  /  "[Y]ou have put your finger on a vital point. The so-called progressive liberal left has more or less taken over the education system and social services. Consider how many tragedies there have been over the years where vulnerable children have been abused and even murdered, and still the message is... we will learn the lessons but we know best!"
[comments at source].

"[A]re [social workers] a class apart who know only to tick the boxes and are paid for that? I have known a grandmother who continues to be heart-broken for her granddaughter who was forced into adoption to a gay [sic] couple at the age of three by social workers and she was not even allowed to see her granddaughter. Do these social workers have a human heart in them or are they made only of the leftist ideology? How miserable and sad it is to be nothing but a destructive ideology and not a human being"
[comment at source].

"They may have hearts but as with the death of Victoria Climbie, any social worker who dares challenge this doctrine will find themselves disciplined, dismissed, and probably unemployable elsewhere. Even the judge giving findings of fact in the Scully-Hicks case felt obliged to hastily say this was not about a gay [sic] adoption - but it was because both he and the social workers were and are too scared to see what was obvious to the neighbours"
[comment at source].

"[W]hat happened to the 'best interests of the child' as defined in the Children Act? The concept is used to discriminate against would-be adopters who smoke. Who are fat. Who hold the 'wrong' political opinions. The Social services argument is that to be a smoker may or may not be harmful to a child but that there is a small risk that it could be harmful - so smokers/fatties/UKIP supporters are likely to find their path to adoption blocked. To be consistent, shouldn't the same argument apply to gay [sic] would-be adopters? And doesn't the fact that it doesn't reveal that 'same sex adoption' is really just a political act?"
[comment at source].

"Children and their natural, God-given rights to a normal family upbringing are being sacrificed in order to progress the LGBT cause. The establishment, terrified of being branded homophobic, is complicit in turning a blind eye to the inevitable problems caused by ignoring children's basic desires to be raised by a mother and father. ... children should never be exposed to sexual concepts beyond their years or confused by being placed with same sex (so called) parents. I've no doubt that some gay [sic] couples may well attempt to provide a stable and loving home for the children given into their care but that does not mean it is right or good for the child ... the gay [sic] desire to adopt is more motivated by a need to have it all their own way. A political statement in which the child becomes little more than a trophy, the must-have accessory like those poor little dogs you see being carted around in handbags"
[comment at source].

"There's a lot of debate about studies of children raised by same-sex couples and what those studies reveal. The truth is that not every decision in life can wait on the outcome of an unbiased, comprehensive study by reputable experts. Will somebody let their child play by the canal until they have seen a report about children drowning, or will they let the unknown bloke who lives on his own down the road baby-sit their kids until they have seen a study about child abuse by strangers? For most decisions in life we have to just exercise some b****y common sense. Children should not be the subject of social engineering experiments"
[comment at source].

"We know from heterosexual divorce and children of step-families that all is not well there. Why do these researchers assume that same-sex couples are free from that? Is it because they still hold to the 'not just equal, but better' belief?"
 [comment at source].

"Babies being bought and sold as commodities. Children being handed over to abusers by social services to fulfil a purely political agenda. Children being procured as cute pets and fashion accessories to meet someone's need to make a statement about their virtue. Many of them suffering immeasurably, or even dying at the hands of their owners. I see no difference between this and the trading of slaves from Africa. We have gone back 200 to 300 years into an amoral cesspool of self-gratification. Just as slaves were not considered humans with rights, so are children in our society. We live in an age of institutionalised and state-promoted child abuse"
[comment at source].

"If you can't see that homosexual adoption is satanic, your moral compass ceased to function a very long time ago"
[comment at source].


Jephthah's Children

"Children adopted by gay [sic] couples are raised in a culture that is 'highly specific and fraught with problems ... adults have higher rates of depression, anxiety, eating disorders, sexually transmitted diseases including HIV/AIDS, domestic violence, sexual assault, and suicidal ideation'."
[quoted at source].

"We hear that gay [sic] couples have loving homes and they love their children. I don't buy that because I think love means you sacrifice for the other person rather than expect the other person to sacrifice for you. If you are gay [sic] and love a child, you either sacrifice your gayness [sic] and raise the child in a home with both mother and father, or you sacrifice your dream of parenthood so the child can be adopted by a home with a mother and father"
[quoted at source].

"How did parenthood become a right? This is not about what goes on between two adults. This is a whole country becoming complicit in making women breeder livestock to meet the whims of a group of me and then denying children created as saleable goods the basic right to a mother and father. A child deserves a mother and father. This is a basic human right. Parenthood is not a right. No homophobia in the world even competes with this socially accepted dehumanisation of children"
[quoted at source].

"There are many of us out in the world. Our parents used us as little display objects. We existed only to make our parents look good - living, breathing political statements. We existed to feed the insatiable egos that were our parents. Does that sound like a happy childhood?"
[quoted at source].

"Don't ask the six-year-old if she or he is happy. The toddlers have been trained to speak like a pet bird. They live in fear of what a parent will do if they dare to make the parent look bad. Don't go by the dog and pony show at the Pride Parade. Ask us, those of us who broke away from the culture that we grew up in. We will tell you"
[quoted at source].

"History will be a harsh taskmaster. Children grow up. Trendy social causes are often revealed as bad ideas. I can say honestly that I don't know a single one of us - those raised in gay [sic] and lesbian households - who is going to tell you they have had anything even remotely related to a happy childhood. How could we? We were just pawns. We existed only as a mirror, and there were not enough mirrors in the world to satisfy them"
[quoted at source].

"I have read tens of these stories. The hardest by far are accounts by women brought up in a gay [sic] male household. The girls are so angry at being denied a mum. They also describe never being affirmed as a woman by the (often many) gay [sic] men that came to live with and usually sleep with their fathers. Hard to read and with a couple of accounts tear jerking hard to read"
[comment at source].

"One of the girls ... said that she was to all intents and purposes well brought up in the eyes of the world. Materially well off, given boundaries, holidays, friends to stay, etc. Inside herself however, she said it was different story. Her father and boyfriends treated her well but did not affirm her a young woman. Her father gave her everything but deliberately denied her a mum. She said she grew to hate him for it and she describes the long road to forgiveness but she is unequivocal, never acceptance"
[comment at source].

"The thought of a child being deliberately brought up without any mother figure is both upsetting and disturbing"
[comment at source].

"Thank you, Dr. Lopez and Brittany Klein for your book... you have paid through your life experiences to pen this very disturbing book which is a real eye opener. I wept and wept all through its reading... how could we be so daft to allow selfish men and women to treat children like commodities that could be bought and sold and adopted for pleasure and pretend that we are a civilised society? How come our society has forgotten basic justice and how come we a re allowing this leftist and cultural marxist agenda to go ahead?"
[comment at source].


Cardiff  (2017)

"Homosexual parenting is not a matter of right. Nor is being a parent a right. It is a gift and a duty. But as in the days of the Book of Judges, there are no moral absolutes in our society. Everyone does what is right in his or her own eyes. Elsie is dead. Jephthah lives on. And that is wrong"

"[T]he tragic little girl murdered by the modern-day Jephthah ... was precisely taken from her family, against the wishes of her grandmother, who had custody of two of her elder siblings, and given to two perverts, at least one of whom monstrously murdered her within a month of adoption, an adoption that was approved despite a sequence of external injuries requiring hospital visits in the previous months of temporary custody. It's a damning indictment, and not just of the monsters who 'cared' for her"
[comment at source].

"Why have none of the social workers involved been arrested and charged as accomplices? Their job, after all, was to remove a child in danger of of abuse, and they did not do that"
[comment at source].

"Some years ago, a young friend of mine ended up as a single father to a three year old girl when his wife died of cancer. The local social services did everything they could to try to persuade him to give up the child for adoption on the grounds that a man can't bring up a female child. Instead of offering help and support, they appeared to do their level best to prove he was doing something wrong so they could take the girl into care. Fortunately he had good neighbours and both sets of grandparents to help him, and the girl is now about eight and doing really well. Now other social services are content to give a girl to two men to raise (and kill), even though grandparents were available. Total madness!!!!"
[comment at source].

"This is staggering evil as to be beyond comprehension. Although it is no more than I expect in a nation that has become largely morally bankrupt"
[comment at source].


Jephthah's Children: An Extract from the Preface

"This book is an uncensored chronicle of everything that has gone wrong because of the movement to normalise same-sex parenting.

"Brittany Klein and I ... have firsthand experience with the seeming 'side issues' that became entangled in the war for marriage 'equality'.  Those side issues ended up being more important than the legal status of same-sex relationships; hence this book.  We can help the general reader understand why something viewed by so many as beneficial was actually harmful to so many more.  This book is not just our story; it is our story plus a whole lot of other people's stories, gathered into a broader picture of everything that backfired.  It offers a few theories as to why multiple societies had such a lapse in judgment:  Propaganda was powerful. Complex issues were prone to oversimplification.  Sexuality was an easy proxy issue on which to project economic frustrations ...

"Whatever views are held about same-sex relationships, same-sex marriage, and in the UK civil partnership (which preceded it), have been, and are, a social disaster for the children affected.  Same-sex marriage was premised on falsehoods.  It was pushed on unwilling populations using nefarious tactics ranging from half-true propaganda to criminal intimidation and racketeering.  It took protections away from the most vulnerable people in the world - particularly but not exclusively children - and empowered the most privileged people in the world ...

"It required changing laws, culture, and global relations in multiple bad directions.  Sex and gender had to be uncoupled from one another, sometimes through dangerous surgery, sometimes through Orwellian language policing.  Sexual choices and self-mastery had to be replaced by biological determinism and peer pressure.  Free will itself was discredited in favour of being 'born this way'.  Self-determination was mandated (for transsexuals) or forbidden (to ex-gays [sic]), depending on how one's urge to change oneself matched the identity politics of opinionated elites.

"Ancient life cycles were overturned for fashionable social theories less than a decade old.  Childhood had to be hyper-sexualised.  Parenthood had to be totally de-sexualised and replaced with systems of buying and selling offspring.  Science and academic research fell prey to groupthink, false assertions, and consensus by duress.  Schools, courts, city halls, and popular culture faced catastrophic reprisal if they did not agree to promote the fallacies used to justify the same-sex marriage movement.

"The discredited logic behind slavery, cultural genocide, and eugenics snuck back into the zeitgeist, under the noses of the progressive critics who usually felt most superior to the slavers, settlers, and Nazis who practiced these historic evils in earlier times ...

"This book will show whom the same-sex marriage movement and same-sex parenting have harmed ... how children's most fundamental birthright - the right to their mother and father, indeed their heritage - has been cast to the flames to make a small gay [sic] lobby happy, and few on the left or right seemed to notice or care ... the toll taken on vulnerable parties in society, particularly women, because of the move toward 'reconstructing families' according to emerging LGBT consumer tastes ... the global effect of imposing same-sex marriage on multiple continents, a process that enhances unhealthy power dynamics among different races and classes ...

"A society that compels people to think things that aren't true, say things they do not believe, and live in fear of retaliation, is one that will lose whatever war it thinks it is waging ...

"With the sleight of hand that yoked marriage to parenting, a host of earnest questions became taboo.  What about the children placed in gay [sic] homes who have biological parents somewhere outside the home?  What about those excluded biological parents?  What about the people whose children are taken away by the state?  What about the cousins, grandparents, siblings, and neighbours who find eugenics unethical, and who want to be tied to their kin?  What about people who cannot remain silent when they see children being trafficked, engineered, or forcibly removed from their origins?  What about all of society, careering toward a future in which human beings will be designed in laboratories and children will be bought and sold? ...

"[T]he lesson is clear ... Parenthood was designed to entail grown-ups sacrificing their own ambitions and desires for the sake of children.  Not the other way around. War perverts everything, including the proper configuration of parent to child ... [and] The sacred order of society collapses in on itself  ... Everyone loses out because everyone is consumed with a distorted consciousness. ...

"The debate over same-sex marriage was not really a debate.  It was a war.  Its polemic rhythms paralleled blitzkrieg and social weapons of mass destruction ... To satisfy the gay [sic] movement's desires, same-sex marriage had to be imposed on the entire world, a globe of seven billion people.  The argument over its implementation remains visceral.  The camps are tribal.  Some of the tactics are as unscrupulous and vicious as one would expect were we exchanging gunfire. ...

"Albeit mostly by force of judicial fiat, the war has largely been fought and won for same-sex marriage and parenting.  During the fog of war, the gay lobby demanded and was promised the right to have other people's children, as well as the assurance that anyone who criticised gay [sic] families would be punished.  Those rash vows can only be kept by hurting people who will have to be sacrificed ... Will we allow the gay [sic] lobby's obsession with marriage to seize our minds so much, that we will be okay with sacrificing ourselves to the gospel of 'marriage equality'?  If we go that far and offer ourselves up as sacrifices, we are not only sacrificing ourselves. We are sacrificing many others who stand to be hurt in the aftermath.

"It is easy to be rash.  It is difficult to be brave.  It is shameful to be cowardly.  We must choose ... will we do the right thing?"


Jephthah's Children: A Review

"This is a very disturbing book.  Don't read it if you want to remain in your comfort zone and close your ears to the cries of the little ones in the affluent West suffering injustice.  In our time God is calling prophets to unveil the truth about the sexual revolution and its effects, especially on children.  Robert Lopez is such a prophet.  Like the author of the story of Jephthah's daughter ... like Jeremiah and Ezekiel, he provides narratives that are raw and unvarnished, revealing sometimes in just a few shocking lines the depths of human sin.  Lust, pride, cruelty, manipulation and other examples of adult selfishness are relentlessly paraded.  The reader is often left asking: 'where is the happy ending? Where is the redemption?'

"Tragically, for many of those brought up in dysfunctional homes with lies, abuse and corruption of innocence, there is only silent torment.  But Lopez and other narrators who have emerged from such situations, who have had the courage to speak out about them, show in their own life stories how even in the worst situations God is present with his judgment and his transforming grace.

"Many people, even in the church, still cling to the myth that Judaeo-Christian sexual ethics on which our civilisation is based are somehow outmoded, prudish and oppressive.  This book shows, in a series of snapshots and sharp comments, something of the destructive and toxic effects of widespread sexual immorality, and how we desperately need to re-lay the foundations by commending and modelling the biological family, for the sake of our future" [source].


Social Care: A Poem

by Anne Murray

"It has become apparent that, in this modern day,
our health and social services are rife with compliancy.

"And if you dare to tell them, this system isn't right,
Prepare yourself for battle; you're going to have a fight.

"They twist and turn the subject; to them we're all the same,
They will take away your dignity, and blacken your good name.

"Then you'll be abandoned, to suffer a bureaucratic fate,
Targeted by the social sharks; that use our babies as bait.

"The destruction of the family will be their only goal,
It has become apparent: the social care system has no soul"


Withdraw Thy Foot...

"God gave children to parents, not to the State, to love, nurture, teach, discipline, and train up into adulthood.  It does not take a 'village' or the 'Collective' or State-run 'Care' homes to raise a child; it takes a loving and biological/adoptive/foster family.  Please see the article Communism and the Family for the ideology underlying the 'Collective'.

"The issues are:... [continue reading]




"And he that stealeth [a child], and selleth him..."
(Exodus 21:16)

"The words of a talebearer are as wounds,
and they go down into the innermost parts of the belly"
(Proverbs 18:8)

"Every fool will be meddling ... Withdraw thy foot from thy neighbour's house:
lest he be weary of thee, and so hate thee"
(Proverbs 20:3b; 25:17)

"Seest thou a man wise in his own conceit? There is more hope of a fool than of him"
(Proverbs 26:12)

"Woe unto them that decree unrighteous decrees,
and that write grievousness which they have prescribed"
(Isaiah 10:1-3)

"Woe to them that devise iniquity, and work evil upon their beds!
when the morning is light, they practice it, because it is in the power of their hand. ...
So they oppress a man and his house, even a man and his heritage"
(Micah 2:1-2)

"It is impossible but that offences will come: but woe unto him, through whom they come!
It were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he cast into the sea,
than that he should offend one of these little ones"
(Luke 17:1-2)

"Let none of you suffer ... as a busybody in other men's matters"
(1 Peter 4:15)


"Never, anywhere in the Holy Bible will you find God giving civil government
any authority to rear or direct the rearing of children ...
God told parents, not the government, to 'train up' their children."
(Laura Rogers, Societal Structures vs. Restructuring, as quoted in Berit Kjos, Brave New Schools, p185)




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Elizabeth McDonald